David’s Greatest Mistake Follow-up pt2

One thing that needs to be said about the message on Sunday is that in no way was it being said that you must insert yourself aggressively or assertively into every situation. It must be said that the message on Sunday was about David and the situation David was facing. “What if David had gotten involved?” is a fair question. Yet, the big idea of how to properly discipline and direct our children lies within a concept we here call a part of our DDP (Description of a Discipled Person). One aspect of a discipled person is that they are Dependent on the Holy Spirit.

Some call this different things: still small voice, gentle whisper, conscience. While all these terms could be talking about the same thing, it also must be understood that they are not necessarily the same thing. Let me explain: conscience to a Buddhist is different than to a Christian and neither is speaking of a cricket directing a little wooden puppet to make moral decisions. Conscience could be just an understanding of what is morally acceptable based on culture and then feeling an emotion that directs one to avoid said action (i.e. Lying is bad, therefore I won’t do it). The problem is that if cultures disagree about what is good or bad morally, then conscience is subjective and not much use to us at all.

The Christian understanding is that God has given a gift at salvation called the Holy Spirit (2Cor 1:22, Eph 1:14) that guarantees our salvation and begins to lead us in paths of righteousness. The Holy Spirit, God Himself (Acts 5:3-4 and elsewhere) leads us as a lamp (Zech 4:6) and gives us conviction, teaching us what is right and wrong (Jer 31:33, Eph 6:17, Jn 16:8). This leading of the Holy Spirit provides us the conviction we need to avoid sin and the gentle leading of the law to know what God would want us to do in any area of our life. Christ followers are dependent on the Holy Spirit. They listen to Him and are guided by Him.

So, when parenting, if you are a Christ follower, know that the Spirit will guide you and can be relied on. This will help to determine in any situation whether to engage or retreat and listening to the Spirit before the flesh is one great marker of whether you are letting God be in control or whether you are just controlling things (or trying to!) yourself. Thanks for reading and more is coming!

David’s Greatest Mistake – Follow-up!

Okay, so a very heavy sermon with a lot going on. I would apologize, but I think those emotions are necessary sometimes to help us follow God more effectively. However, here is a not-very-heavy follow-up blog post that can help dads get started with engaging their children in a more positive way. So, dads, here are 60 fun things that you can do with your children, borrowed from a friend of ours (Thanks Pastor Chris Pope)! Enjoy dads!
60 Fun Things a Dad Can Do With His Kids
o Have a “Date with Dad” once every three months with each of your children.
o Hold a Sunday afternoon family board games marathon.
o Take a walk though the neighborhood at Christmas to see the lights.
o Do a basic home or car repair job together.
o Cook up a special meal for Mom. Have the kids make menus, and everyone
serves as a waiter or waitress. (Then clean up afterward!)
o Go to breakfast together. Let your child order for you.
o Build a model together, but let your child do most of the actual work.
o Take a nature hike.
o Go camping overnight or for the full weekend.
o Bake a major batch of chocolate chip cookies to distribute to your child’s
friends.
o Do photo shoots together on walks, at the zoo, around the house, and so
forth. Select photos and work together on a scrapbook.
o Select key scriptures verses and memorize them together, discussing what
each verse means to you. Reward each other with frozen yogurt each time
you can both quote 10 new verses word-perfect.
o Have a croquet or badminton tournament in your backyard.
o Play a video game together.
o Work on a computer together.
o Go to your child’s athletic or special activities. Encourage and praise (but
don’t be push. Be the parent and NOT the coach)
o Say, “I want to be praying for you this week. What’s on your mind? What
would you like me to pray about?”
o Design and plant a flower garden together.
o Make a basket of fresh fruit, breads, gourmet crackers, and canned goods,
and then leave it on a porch of a needy family.
o Ask, “What’s the best thing that happened to you today?”
o Ask your children to pray for you.
o Put together a surprise “This is Your Life” program for Mom and for the
grandparents.
o Tell your kids why you love their mother. Have them tell you why they love
her, then get a piece or poster board and join the kids in writing all these
reason on a giant greeting card with crayon. Have the kids decorate and
deliver the card to Mom.
o Join with one or two other families for family skit and talent night, with
everyone participating. Rent a video camera to record the event for posterity.
o At dinner, have everyone share “My Most Embarrassing Moment.”
o With 3×5 cards, stable together a handmade coupon book for each child.
Each coupon entitles them to a one-on-one date with Dad for ice cream, a
ball game, bowling, or roller-skating, a game of their choice, pizza, whatever.
(Suggested rule: Limit one coupon per child per month.)
o Read thought a book of the Bible together, discussing it as you go.
o Go to a local, state, or national museum.
o Pick out cologne for Mom that you all like.
o Find an apple or cherry orchard and arrange a day of fruit picking with your
o Go shopping for your and their clothes together.
o Check your city for free outdoor concerts or plays in the park. Fix a picnic and
make an evening of it.
o Take a trip to the library. Get each child a library card and help them discover
the world of good books.
o Buy or rent an aerobics video and work out together.
o Go to plays and concerts staged by local colleges and universities.
o Go for a series of family bike rides.
o Go fly a kite together.
o Walk to construction sites and watch the progress on a building, house, or
o If your children have surviving grandparents, have a “Grandparents
Appreciation Day” with homemade cards, crafts, and goodies made by you
and the kids. Then do the same for Mom, then for a neighbor or friend, then
for your pastor or youth pastor.
o Put together a jigsaw puzzle.
o After family dinner, back the chairs away from the table and play,
“Concentration,” that favorite old parlor game where players number of, then
slap knees twice, clap hands twice, and call out their number and someone
else’s number as they snap their fingers. Then everyone pitches in to clean
up the kitchen. The winner gets to choose his task.
o Get on the floor and watch your young child’ favorite TV program with him.
o Take your kids with you to pick flowers from the garden, and assemble a
bouquet for Mom or another special person.
o By yourself, pick flowers and assemble a bouquet for your daughter.
o Build a bookshelf or soapbox racer with your son.
o Have a candlelight night. Turn out all the lights, light candles and build a fire,
pop popcorn, and sit around telling favorite stories.
o Pray together for special people in your lives.
o Call ahead, and then take a tour of the local fire station.
o Blow bubbles in the backyard.
o At Christmas, Easter, Independence Day, or some other special occasion, put
on plays with your children to dramatize the meaning of the holiday.
o For each child’s twelfth birthday, give him a jar with fifty-two “Special Treat”
slips. Your child can draw one slip per week. Include simple treats as well as
more elaborate (for example, “Stay up an hour later one night this week,”
“invite a friend to spend the night,” “Go to an ice cream or yogurt shop with
Dad”).
o Serve together in some community or church project. Serve food at a
homeless shelter or volunteer to help in the church nursery.
o Write letters to shut-ins from your church, or visit local nursing homes with a
puppy for the patients to cuddle.
o Begin reading C.S. Lewis’s The Chronicles of Narnia together.
o Surprise your child by picking him up at school and taking him to a movie, on
a picnic, or out for pizza.
o Arrange to have lunch with your young child at school.
o Plan a “hidden Supper.” Hide quick-fix items throughout the house, then give
a clue to where the first item is located (The second clue is found with the first
item, and so on). Fix the food items together.
o Have an “Honor Night” for each family member. Prepare that person’s favorite
meal, have a special place of honor at the table, design an honor plaque, and
have each family member share “What I appreciate about…”
o Once a month, plan a formal dinner. Everyone dresses up and the table is
spread with the fancy china. Use this fun occasion to teach etiquette.
Anyone of these can get you involved with your kids in a fun and easy way. This is a great first step to making disciples of our kids. Never too late to get involved and started!
Obviously, this list works for moms too, but in the spirit of the message applying to David, had to start somewhere!

Living a life like Jesus

Does that title make you cringe? I know I used to struggle with wording like that. However, let me start with a few clarifying statements:
– You are not capable of living a sinless life (it was done for you)
– You are not needing to dress differently or grow a beard
– You don’t have to go to the Holy land
Let’s consider a few verses:
Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age. – Matthew 28:18-20 (ESV)
Truly, I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what has been done to the fig tree, but even if you say to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ it will happen. And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith. – Matthew 21:21-22 (ESV)
I say to you, whoever believes in me will also do the works that I do; and greater works than these will he do, because I am going to the Father. Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it. – John 14:12-14 (ESV)
By this we may know that we are in him: whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked. – 1 John 2:5-6 (ESV)

Jesus taught others how to live as God would like. He called them disciples (or learners) and this was a common title in His day. These learners were taught how to live and taught how to see reality in a way that is much different than many Christians today believe. In a simple way, this reality is that God is in control, will win, but in the meantime His kingdom is here (through the church) while it doesn’t always feel like it is here. One day it will be fully established, but for now we serve as heralds and peacemakers.

He made disciples and then tells us to do the same. You can live like Jesus today. Over the next couple weeks I am going to spell out some of the key things Jesus taught His disciples and help us consider how we can pass this on to another… thus making disciples. Are you ready to live like Jesus?

A Better Seat…

Have you ever been at an event when a big pillar or something was obstructing your view? It is so frustrating! You crane your neck or move around to see all the action. Sometimes, depending on your seat, you are able to see a little of what is happening, but not the whole picture. I remember being on one of the rooftops outside Wrigley and when a fly ball was hit, I couldn’t see where it went. I remember looking up at the scoreboard to see what happened. This might have been even more frustrating than having no view at all. I wanted a better seat…

Job had a much bigger problem. He had been blessed and then lost it all. In the process of this life event, his wife was less-than-helpful and his friends were overwhelmingly negative about what the problem was. Ultimately, God steps in and sets everyone straight (go figure!) and then Job responds with “I had heard of you with my ear, but now my eyes have seen you.” (Job 42:6) Ultimately, he was living life and misunderstanding how everything worked. Now, at the end, he realized that all he needed was a better seat…

Are you missing some of the action? Are you missing it all? What is blocking your view from what God is doing? Perhaps you just need a better seat… I know I want a better seat…

A Long View…

I have become skeptical of comments like these, “Daddy, you are the best daddy in the whole world!” While I loved having both little girls spout these niceties at me last night, I know there is a good chance that at some point today I will hear something like, “You are the worst daddy in the whole world!” Here’s the best part: I am sure that both of these statements are untrue. Yet what is interesting to me is the fact that either statement needs to be said. Luke 6:45 tells us that words come from an overflow of the heart. There is so much emotion wrapped into these moments with my girls that they blurt out what they feel. Isn’t that kinda how it goes? “I love Taco Bell!” “I love ice cream!” “I hate lines!” “I hate this dog!” Emotions lead us to places in the heat of the moment.

I think we do the same thing with God. “You’re the best!” “Where are you?” It is not that this is wrong, but just us, very human and broken a lot of times. Think of a time that your emotions changed with God in a hurry. Perhaps it was the moment you realized that He isn’t going to answer all your prayers with “yes” or the time that you woke up and realized you didn’t really love the person you are committed to and you had a choice to make about your view of God.

Truth is, God is God and I am not. God is the epitome of the “best daddy in the whole world.” He sent His son that we might have freedom through belief. Jesus already has conquered this planet, sin, death and the like. Jesus has already done all those things. My identity is now wrapped in Him, the author and perfector of my faith. He is who I count on. So it doesn’t really matter what my kids say or think – I know the truth either way. It doesn’t really matter what people say – or even how I feel – because His opinion and words are all that matter. I am going to choose to take the long view – Jesus already won and this will be made fully known one day. Until then, my emotions and others’ words are nice, but need to be in their proper perspective.

A Simple yet Amazing Truth

dis`ci`ple
/diˈsīpəl/

This word is derived from mathete, a Greek word that means “learner” in its simplest English form. A learner is someone who learns things. Funny thing about that, we are learning things all the time. Your mind is learning things all the time. The one nuance that makes discipleship a little different than simply learning things is that a disciple tends to be a follower with the information they have learned. So, a disciple is someone who has learned something and then therefore follows this information in their life.

However, the truth is when dealing with faith in Jesus and a religious mindset, we are making disciples all the time. We don’t often see it that way. Often we say things like, “I don’t know enough to make disciples” or “I am not holy enough to be a disciple-maker.” People are watching us all the time at all times and those who know that we are supposed to follow Jesus give watchers a view into religious life that may or may not be what following Jesus looks like at all. Imagine what we communicate when we are foul in public to those that know Jesus is our savior. Imagine what a true Christ-follower communicates when living a Gospel-dependent life. This is not to say that we must be perfect because others are watching, but that we are to be mindful of the fact that we are making disciples all the time. The question I hope to ask, “what is the quality of your disciple?”

A Brief Word on Repentance

Many have talked of repentance being a 180-degree turn back to God. Throughout Scripture that is one of the major concepts, for sure. The Old Testament is full of verses where God requests Israel to turn back to Him. I am thinking about this today and perhaps noticing something key. Let me know what you think.

The Greek word that often gets translated into “repentance” by modern scholars had the idea of “turn” attached but was from a much deeper place. The Romans used it whenever they were marching into a new province they intended to conquer. They would yell, “repent, repent” and then torch those that refused. Surely this meant “come to us, come to us” but also carried the air of “change your perspective.” One was to change their perspective – they did not know freedom any longer because now they were conquered. They no longer could think like a Gaul, they had to think like the Romans do. One turns when they realize they have been defeated. They turn when they come to the reality that they have little to give and decide to fall into line with the new reality.

This leads me back to the Word and the word, repentance. I think so many of us see repentance as something we DO as opposed to an idea of coming to our senses, and realizing there is no other way out. The prodigal returned because of a thought. Nicodemus could not shake the fact that he had missed something major. One day every knee will bow with the realization that Jesus is King. None of these things are something that is forced or brought about by a conniving spirit. Each of these realizations or attitude changes come from a place of surrender of will and a trust in the one who is capable of being trusted. Is God this to you? As we grow in love to Him, sin doesn’t taste as good as it used to. As we surrender more, this life/world is more and more unsatisfying. His goodness causes us to turn (Rom 2:4).

Digging into “Zealot” pt 2

I am reading this one at a snail’s pace… sorry! Chapter 5 deals with the Roman governors that were placed in Palestine around and after the time of Jesus. In his clever way of retelling history to meet his thesis’ needs, Reza gives a very scaled back version of the various events leading up to the destruction of Jerusalem and seemingly lumps Jesus into a group that likely did not even exist yet – the zealots. Here, he states emphatically that the Gospels’ description of Pontius Pilate could not have been accurate (he uses the phrase “pure fiction”) due to the fact that Pilate dealt so harshly with so many other revolutionaries.

One thing that is not shown here, and something followers of Jesus are usually quick to state, is that Jesus was not a violent revolutionary. He did not attack the governing bodies, the leaders or anyone else for that matter. While these “zealous messiahs” rose and fell by the sword, Jesus was different. There is no record anywhere of Jesus being anything close to a violent person. In fact, most accounts of Him marvel at the fact that this entire movement did not seem to want to strike at the iron of destruction and freedom for the Jews, but a freedom for all, by following God and His forgiving ways.

With this truth concept in mind, there is another way to view Reza’s statement. While Reza refuses to believe that a heartless, ruthless, but effective governor like Pilate would ever “wash his hands” of a conviction like Jesus, it is more than possible. Let’s assume Pilate heard of Jesus and then inquired of Him to see what this “rebellion” was all about. Let’s assume that Jesus, unlike others, would have stated that His kingdom was not of this world (I shouldn’t need to cite this) and that He was not after the emperor or anyone else’s head for that matter. Would Pilate have dealt with Jesus so ruthlessly? At this point, if I were Pilate, I would be stunned and want nothing to do with this. No one could state what Jesus had done that was evil and the entire notion that Jesus’ head was better served detached from His body would have made little to no sense. This seems more than likely and is another interesting factor not even considered in his book.

Digging into “Zealot”

Reza Aslan has written a book about Jesus. Some consider it controversial because of the fact that Reza is a Muslim man. While this makes news, there are other issues within Reza’s arguments that must be dealt with. If you will allow me, as I read the book, I would like to point out some of the questions I feel arise.

First, in the introduction, Reza starts to show his colors in his perspective about Jesus. He holds to the Gospel of Mark as being written sometime after 70 C.E. This is believed in part because the “most widely accepted theory on the formation of the gospels, the ‘Two-Source Theory’ holds (kindle loc 155)” this view. Someone once said that the narrow road would be found by few, which suggests it is hard. Perhaps this was not because it is hidden or difficult to see, but difficult to follow in a seeming tsunami of “scholarship.” There is a lot of good writing on the early date of Mark’s Gospel (before 60 C.E.). I found a fun example here (http://tinyurl.com/kgzz73m). Just because something is new or seemingly compelling may not make it right. Further, Reza uses this whole concept to suggest that Jesus was but a man who was made into the Christ by the early church (after the rebellion leading to the temple’s destruction in 70 C.E.) to separate themselves from impending Roman judgment. I don’t know how one can come to the conclusion that Jesus was not seen as God until the writing of the Gospels (late writing at that) when Paul makes no mistakes in being bold with his claims of the Christ. Reza has some interesting dating for Paul’s letters, but they are written in the 40s and 50s in his opinion, so that is problematic at best to Reza’s position that Christians colluded to build Jesus into deity.

Second, Reza makes a claim that his entire book is to be the biographical look at the man of Jesus. When one makes that claim, facts must be immaculately recounted. A recent criticism of this kind has come out, but I will let you read that on your own time (http://tinyurl.com/lz9k4n9).

This is a start to my reading the book. It is definitely challenging me, but these are the issues I see at first glance.

 

Getting Settled

As my new office comes together and I start doing the “work” that is this amazing job called ministry, I can’t help but consider how unsettling following God can be. He keeps things interesting for sure, and I continue to find myself dependent on Him. We wait for our house to sell. Pray. I wonder what the next steps will be. Pray. I wonder how I will fit in. Pray. I am eager to see some of these dreams come together. Pray.

As uncomfortable as a new start can be from time to time, I am excited to see what He wants to do in and through me. So, we pray and carry on.